Day one of summer break. I’m using this week to Day one of summer break. I’m using this week to ease into our summer routine. Everyone gets to choose when they do their summer reading and their chores. As long as it’s done by the end of the day it’s all good. As for me, I’m working this morning and it looks like our afternoon plans of swimming may not happen with this rain.
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How do you start your summer?  Low and slow or fast and furious?  I’ll pick a winner from the comments for a surprise gift. 
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First day, last day. One my simple joys in May is First day, last day. One my simple joys in May is seeing how everyone’s kids have changed in the last year. This year I see the biggest change in Peyton from first day to last day!!
On Wednesday’s we wear pink! Last night @blaums On Wednesday’s we wear pink!  Last night @blaumshavemorefun and I went to see Mean Girls at the Saenger Theater. Dinner at Domenica and  French 75’s at The Sazerac…. It was so fetch. Thank you again to @broadwayneworleans for bringing all of these amazing shows to the city!  Can’t wait for next season!! 
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#broadwayinneworleans #meangirls #saengertheatre #meangirlsbroadway #theaternight #girlsnight #onwednesdayswewearpink #youcantsitwithus
4.5 days left of school until we are in our #summe 4.5 days left of school until we are in our #summerofyes. We’ve added a few new things to our summer schedule like me trying a three day work week, art and sports camps, homeschool summer curriculum (more on that later) and season passes to the water park. Summer has become one of my favorite seasons with the kids even though it can be hot and miserable. What are your plans for summer? 
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Swimmie is @target. Coverup is @biglove_fonda. Tan is @planetbeach_mandeville. 
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This suit 😍. Y’all know I love a pattern and This suit 😍. Y’all know I love a pattern and this three piece set is just perfect. The skirt is swimmable or you can remove it because it is separate from the bottoms. Liked on @shop.ltk. 
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PS my summer glow is courtesy of @planetbeach_mandeville. 
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@walmart has some great summer finds! I rounded u @walmart has some great summer finds!  I rounded up a few of my favorites on @shop.ltk. Make sure you are following me in their app. 
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You can have a nice day or you can have family pic You can have a nice day or you can have family pictures. 
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Mother’s Day can be complicated. I’ve spoken m Mother’s Day can be complicated. I’ve spoken many times about my own relationship with the holiday. For a lot of women this day is hard. I want you to know that I see you and I am holding space for you… if you have a child in foster care, if you placed your baby for adoption, if you are trying to have a baby, if you have lost a baby or child, foster parents, if you are waiting to adopt.  Please know that today you are in my heart. XO. 
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#mothersday #fostercare #adoption #infantloss #childloss
What are your Mother’s Day plans this weekend? What are your Mother’s Day plans this weekend?  Justin asked me what I wanted to do and I said two things. First, I don’t want to make any decisions and second, I want a nice picture where everyone is smiling. LOL to the second one. So tell me your perfect Mother’s Day below. 
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Family, Kids, Life, midlife, Plus · July 19, 2021

The Day I Got Called the Fat Mom

This story is from 2019 but it is one that sticks with me. Not because someone called me The Fat Mom but because in that moment little eyes were on me. It was also a very poignant moment in my journey with my body that I was no longer going to let the term “fat” be an insult to me.

A few weeks ago at the pool one of the boys came to me and said, a kid said that you are the fat mom. I was a little shocked at first and we all just sat at the table looking at one another. I asked him what he thought and he told me, “well I don’t think it was very nice for him to say that about you and then I told him to shut up that most days you look like a princess.”

My sweet boys were there to defend me. They just knew it wasn’t a nice thing to say.

I struggled in the moment of how to respond. I want my boys to know that words hurt but I also want them to know that they hold the only opinion that matters about their body. Even when someone says something hurtful about us we don’t have to feel bad about ourselves. I said, “well mommy isn’t skinny. But things like that don’t matter. I am fun and I love wearing a bathing suit and swimming with you. I am never going to let someone else’s opinion stop me from doing that. Ever.”

Tiffany with Porter

Why this was important for the kids

This was a huge learning moment for my kids. We concentrate on body positivity for girls but it is just as important for boys. In that moment, if I had cried or asked them if they thought I was fat or left the pool I would have taught them that someone’s opinion had power over me. I don’t want my boys to think their worth will ever be decided by anyone else. These are the moments where we teach our kids confidence but also to be good people, friends, students, partners, boyfriends, spouses, parents and so much more. Small moments like this will affect the way they see life.

Tiffany with the boys at the beach - the day someone called me the fat mom

Why this was important for me

This was also a moment that I realized people need to see all bodies in swimsuits. Somewhere in the midst of that child’s life they had gotten the message that big bodies don’t belong in swimsuits. They had been given the message that there is something wrong with being big. When we shrink away, when we try to make ourselves invisible, when we hide under clothing or coverups or towels we are sending the message that there is something wrong with our body. That they do not belong in the same spaces as thin bodies and that is WRONG.

Wear your swimsuit!!!! Take up space. Show up. Show your kids that all bodies have a place. That all bodies are good. That no one gets to decide if they are good or if they are worthy from looking at their outward appearance. Teaching them how to respect themselves will teach them how to respect others.

Tiffany with the boys at the lake - The Day someone called me the fat mom

If I am fat, I am fat. That is a part of who I am, but it’s not who I am. I will never let one thing define me and I won’t in this case either. I am proud of my boys and the way they handled this situation but I am also proud of myself. It’s a life long lesson that I will not let other peoples words define me.

XO,

Tiffany

In: Family, Kids, Life, midlife, Plus · Tagged: body confidence, body positive, body positivity, plus size swim, raising boys, raising strong boys, taking up space, taking up space as a plus size woman, teaching kids body confidence, the fat mom, wearing plus size swim

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Day one of summer break. I’m using this week to Day one of summer break. I’m using this week to ease into our summer routine. Everyone gets to choose when they do their summer reading and their chores. As long as it’s done by the end of the day it’s all good. As for me, I’m working this morning and it looks like our afternoon plans of swimming may not happen with this rain.
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How do you start your summer?  Low and slow or fast and furious?  I’ll pick a winner from the comments for a surprise gift. 
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.

#swimmingfun #swimday #swimming_pool #summersports #swimforlife #swimtrunks #swim #swimming #swimmingtime #pool #swimmingpooltime #kids #kidscrafts #summersoff #epicadventures #almostbacktoschool #summersofficialpage #outsideisbetter #summeradventure #changeofscenery #freshairandfreedom #familyfuntime #memorymaking #summerbreak #summervibes #longweekend #bringonsummer #funinthesun
First day, last day. One my simple joys in May is First day, last day. One my simple joys in May is seeing how everyone’s kids have changed in the last year. This year I see the biggest change in Peyton from first day to last day!!
On Wednesday’s we wear pink! Last night @blaums On Wednesday’s we wear pink!  Last night @blaumshavemorefun and I went to see Mean Girls at the Saenger Theater. Dinner at Domenica and  French 75’s at The Sazerac…. It was so fetch. Thank you again to @broadwayneworleans for bringing all of these amazing shows to the city!  Can’t wait for next season!! 
.
.
#broadwayinneworleans #meangirls #saengertheatre #meangirlsbroadway #theaternight #girlsnight #onwednesdayswewearpink #youcantsitwithus
4.5 days left of school until we are in our #summe 4.5 days left of school until we are in our #summerofyes. We’ve added a few new things to our summer schedule like me trying a three day work week, art and sports camps, homeschool summer curriculum (more on that later) and season passes to the water park. Summer has become one of my favorite seasons with the kids even though it can be hot and miserable. What are your plans for summer? 
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Swimmie is @target. Coverup is @biglove_fonda. Tan is @planetbeach_mandeville. 
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.

#brightswimwear #swimsuitshoot #newbikinis #poolfloats #onepieceswimwear #newbikini #swimwear #outfitinspiration #styleoftheday #fashionpost #beachfashion #twopiece #bathingsuits #bikinioftheday #lifeisbetterinabikini #bikini #swimsuit #plussizeswim #boldcurvyfashionista #embracemycurves #plussizeswimsuits #swimsuitsforall #plussizebikini #curvygirlstyle #embraceyourcurves #celebratemycurves #plussizeswimwear
This suit 😍. Y’all know I love a pattern and This suit 😍. Y’all know I love a pattern and this three piece set is just perfect. The skirt is swimmable or you can remove it because it is separate from the bottoms. Liked on @shop.ltk. 
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PS my summer glow is courtesy of @planetbeach_mandeville. 
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#brightswimwear #swimsuitshoot #newbikinis #poolfloats #onepieceswimwear #newbikini #swimwear #outfitinspiration #styleoftheday #fashionpost #beachfashion #twopiece #bathingsuits #bikinioftheday #lifeisbetterinabikini #bikini #swimsuit #plussizeswim #boldcurvyfashionista #embracemycurves #plussizeswimsuits #swimsuitsforall #plussizebikini #curvygirlstyle #embraceyourcurves #celebratemycurves #plussizeswimwear
@walmart has some great summer finds! I rounded u @walmart has some great summer finds!  I rounded up a few of my favorites on @shop.ltk. Make sure you are following me in their app. 
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#welovestyle #runwaylook #fashionbloggerlife #fashionmusthave #womensfashionblog #styleandcurve #fashionplus #plussizebloggersunite #fashionforallsizes #plussizeblogger #plussizefashion #plussizegirls #curvesarebeautiful #plussizebloggers #fashionista #plusclothing #boldcurvyfashionista #curvyfashionstyle #curvestyle #plussizeinfluencer #curvygirlfashion #curvyfashion #curvyfashionista #curvychic #fashioncurvy #boldandcurvy #fashionblogger #ootd #womensstyle #personalstyle
You can have a nice day or you can have family pic You can have a nice day or you can have family pictures. 
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.
#mothersday #family #mom #momlife #familypics #mandeville #mandevilleblogger #louisiananorthshore #northshore #familypictures #familyphotography #lifewithboys
Mother’s Day can be complicated. I’ve spoken m Mother’s Day can be complicated. I’ve spoken many times about my own relationship with the holiday. For a lot of women this day is hard. I want you to know that I see you and I am holding space for you… if you have a child in foster care, if you placed your baby for adoption, if you are trying to have a baby, if you have lost a baby or child, foster parents, if you are waiting to adopt.  Please know that today you are in my heart. XO. 
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.
#mothersday #fostercare #adoption #infantloss #childloss
What are your Mother’s Day plans this weekend? What are your Mother’s Day plans this weekend?  Justin asked me what I wanted to do and I said two things. First, I don’t want to make any decisions and second, I want a nice picture where everyone is smiling. LOL to the second one. So tell me your perfect Mother’s Day below. 
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#welovestyle #runwaylook #fashionbloggerlife #fashionmusthave #womensfashionblog #styleandcurve #fashionplus #plussizebloggersunite #fashionforallsizes #plussizeblogger #plussizefashion #plussizegirls #curvesarebeautiful #plussizebloggers #fashionista #plusclothing #boldcurvyfashionista #curvyfashionstyle #curvestyle #plussizeinfluencer #curvygirlfashion #curvyfashion #curvyfashionista #curvychic #fashioncurvy #boldandcurvy #fashionblogger #ootd #womensstyle #personalstyle
May the 4th be with you. . . #throwback #maythe4t May the 4th be with you.
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