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You can shop this outfit and my daily looks in the @liketoknow.it app.
The word of the day is monochromatic. Yesterday’ The word of the day is monochromatic. Yesterday’s inauguration had the ladies all serving iconic monochromatic looks. I read a meme that said the group text must have read, jewel tones. I love when politics and fashion collide. Tell me what was your favorite color combo yesterday?  Mine was 100% @michelleobama. Currently searching for a big belt 👀
We finished our @kreweofhousefloats this weekend. We finished our @kreweofhousefloats this weekend. I present Krewe De King: A View of the Avenue Bead Trees on the Northshore. We represent both the Sidewalk Side and the Neutral Ground side! 💜💚💛Krewe of House Floats  maps will be available online February 1st!  We can’t wait to get out and see all the houses in person!!
One of my goals this year is to be better with kee One of my goals this year is to be better with keeping up with sales. This week @target has 30% off dresses in the circle app and they just released several new spring dresses. Check out my round up on @liketoknow.it
Most mornings I wake up and I write something. Usu Most mornings I wake up and I write something. Usually how I am feeling or something I am thinking of. I wanted to share what I wrote this morning. 

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It is surreal that in 2021 this needs to be said but today in feels important to make it clear that white supremacy is wrong. There are moments in your life where your eyes are opened and you see that the world is not what you thought it was. But you have to choose to see it. It is possible for us to keep our eyes closed and pretend these atrocities don’t exist. And that is wrong. 

My eyes were opened a long time ago but this past year they are wide open. I made a choice to see. I made a choice to acknowledge. I would encourage you today to do something to educate yourself. Something to open your own eyes. Something to see beyond your own circumstances and the world that you personally live in.
It’s game day 🖤💛 We are going to get some It’s game day 🖤💛 We are going to get some @popeyeslouisianakitchen because, superstitions. Also on the menu gumbo, jambalaya and pimento cheese dip. What is your game day go to?
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At Home, Kids, Life · May 10, 2019

Five Minutes a Day

Sunday is Mother’s Day and I have been wanting to share this with you for a while. My heart is burdened for moms out there who feel they are alone in a situation, doing it wrong or second guessing themselves. You are the perfect momma for your kids and trying your best is doing a good job. We all get it wrong now and then. Even the ones who don’t like to admit it.

Peyton has been seeing a therapist at school all year. This is something I have been somewhat private about because I am not always sure how to talk about these kind of things. It’s emotional and a lot on us and I always want people to know how amazing he is so I tend to not want to focus on the trouble we have sometimes.

Peyton’s therapist is wonderful. We could not have asked for a better person to walk into our lives as we navigated first grade. She is kind and encouraging and not only does she empower my child she empowers me. Each meeting I have had with her she talks about all the wonderful qualities Peyton has and then she will talk about how good of a job I am doing. It’s impressive how she always makes me feel amazing in a situation that could make you feel less than amazing.

A few months ago we sat down and she said, I need to tell you something. She began to tell me that when she asked Peyton about things at home he said that Daddy plays with him but Mommy does not. My heart actually sank into my stomach. He wasn’t wrong. Many night Justin comes home from work and takes them into the yard to play or to the gym and I work or catch up on things around the house.

I said, I will spend more time with him and take him out once a week or things like that. Being the intuitive she is she immediately noticed the change in my demeanor. She looked at me and said, you are doing the best you can with the tools you have. I am going to give you a few new tools to use and we will work on this together. You didn’t do anything wrong. You are caring for him like you know to care for someone and he just needs something a little different.

She told me that what she thought would work would be giving him 5 minutes a day that were uninterrupted Peyton and Mommy time. It was a time to do something together, face to face, to create a special space. This was time he would grow to count on and know that he could trust me in those moments. That I wasn’t going to get up and get his brother a cup of juice or wash the dishes or change a diaper. I was going to be right there with him.

As adults we always think about fixing things in big ways rather than looking for small changes that we can make. Those five minutes a day have become a sacred space. I have learned more about Peyton’s affinity for art, his difficulties with things in school, situations with friends than I ever would have learned on a monthly night out with him. It wasn’t about the grand gesture. It was about small calculated, meaningful moments that we both needed more than we know.

Right now I am just doing this with Peyton. As we have parented longer we have realized that our kids have individual needs. Currently this is one of his. As we navigate raising these boys their needs will grow and change and we will assess those changes along the way too.

Momma don’t make your job any harder. Don’t let the mommy guilt seep in. You are a wonderful mother and doing the best you know. The next time you encounter a hard spot with your little don’t grab at the big solution to fix it. Think about that small, almost miniscule thing you can do and change it there. Remember that a boat stays on course with minute changes…

Also, I wanted to add. If you are in a situation where your child is in therapy and your therapist isn’t meeting your needs, change therapists. Childhood is too short to have your kid working with the wrong therapist. Like anything therapy is about the connection between the child and the therapist. You can go to the best therapist in the world and if it isn’t the right fit for your kid it’s the wrong therapist.

XO,

Tippy

In: At Home, Kids, Life · Tagged: mom, mom of boys, mother's day, school, therapy

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  1. Brittany says

    May 10, 2019 at 7:56 pm

    This is so encouraging. I am the same way – always ripping and running, and I have to be intentional about carving out small, intentional moments with my kiddos. Thanks for this reminder ❤️

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It’s National Polka Dot Day! The high holy day It’s National Polka Dot Day!  The high holy day of Marylin, Minnie Mouse, Lucille Ball and Me!  On the blog I found 50 polka dot items that make me smile. Check it out. Link in bio!! 
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You can shop this outfit and my daily looks in the @liketoknow.it app.
The word of the day is monochromatic. Yesterday’ The word of the day is monochromatic. Yesterday’s inauguration had the ladies all serving iconic monochromatic looks. I read a meme that said the group text must have read, jewel tones. I love when politics and fashion collide. Tell me what was your favorite color combo yesterday?  Mine was 100% @michelleobama. Currently searching for a big belt 👀
We finished our @kreweofhousefloats this weekend. We finished our @kreweofhousefloats this weekend. I present Krewe De King: A View of the Avenue Bead Trees on the Northshore. We represent both the Sidewalk Side and the Neutral Ground side! 💜💚💛Krewe of House Floats  maps will be available online February 1st!  We can’t wait to get out and see all the houses in person!!
One of my goals this year is to be better with kee One of my goals this year is to be better with keeping up with sales. This week @target has 30% off dresses in the circle app and they just released several new spring dresses. Check out my round up on @liketoknow.it
Most mornings I wake up and I write something. Usu Most mornings I wake up and I write something. Usually how I am feeling or something I am thinking of. I wanted to share what I wrote this morning. 

Monday

It is surreal that in 2021 this needs to be said but today in feels important to make it clear that white supremacy is wrong. There are moments in your life where your eyes are opened and you see that the world is not what you thought it was. But you have to choose to see it. It is possible for us to keep our eyes closed and pretend these atrocities don’t exist. And that is wrong. 

My eyes were opened a long time ago but this past year they are wide open. I made a choice to see. I made a choice to acknowledge. I would encourage you today to do something to educate yourself. Something to open your own eyes. Something to see beyond your own circumstances and the world that you personally live in.
It’s game day 🖤💛 We are going to get some It’s game day 🖤💛 We are going to get some @popeyeslouisianakitchen because, superstitions. Also on the menu gumbo, jambalaya and pimento cheese dip. What is your game day go to?
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Sweater is @sparklecity.co. 
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#gameday #saints #saintsfootball #sundayfunday #sundayvibes #gamedayfood #gamedayready #blackandgoldsuperbowl #louisianablogger #nolablogger #la_bloggers
It never fails. Every January I’m freezing becau It never fails. Every January I’m freezing because I forget how cold and wet January is. I rounded up a few cute options from @perfectlypriscillaboutique that will make your winter cozy and warm. Check it out. Link in bio. 
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#winterstyle #winterfashion #sweaterdress #sweaterweather #sweaters #Blog #blogger #bloggerstyle #bloggerswithcurves #plussizeblogger #sizeinclusivefashion #januaryweather
It’s National Hat Day 👒 . . Bonus this dress/ It’s National Hat Day 👒
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Bonus this dress/vest is still on sale at @shopburu. Check it out on my @liketoknow.it
After the holiday decor came down we decided to up After the holiday decor came down we decided to update our at home bar area. I have to say, after our kitchen this was the area that got used the most this year.  On the blog I’m giving you a few ideas on what you need on your home bar.  Read it all at the link in my bio.
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